Negative Attitudes To Avoid For A Successful Walk With Christ

If you desire to have a successful walk with God, then the first step would be to recognize the power of the mind. The thoughts we think directly impact our behaviors, moods, actions, words, and habits. Therefore, learning to control our minds and thoughts is a crucial skill that we cannot neglect. While there are many great attitudes to adopt, there are many negative attitudes to avoid.

In this post, we’ll go over eight negative attitudes to avoid if you desire a successful walk with Christ.


Self-pity is self-defeating. It’ll never help you get anywhere or achieve the things you really want in life. In fact, self-pity is a sin. Self-pity is idolatry and the worship of one’s self. Someone who is engulfed in self-pity can never truly be grateful or appreciative because they’re completely consumed with all that is wrong with their life.

If you really took the time to think of how others live, you’d realize you probably have a lot more than others. Life is hard and unfair for everyone. We all have things we struggle with and have to overcome. However, feeling sorry for yourself will never change your situation and will only make you feel worse about yourself and your life. Instead of wasting your energy on negative attitudes and thoughts that won’t help you, try using your energy for something that would steer your life in the direction you want to go.

Try your best to avoid the trap of self-pity. That mentality keeps your mind stuck in noticing all that’s wrong with your life. Selfishness lives in that atmosphere and you’ll never understand just how truly blessed you are if you live in this mentality.

Self-pity leads to complaining, another sin.


“Do all things without complaining and disputing…”

– Philippians 2:14

Did you know that complaining is a sin? God specifically tells us to not do it. However, I’ve seen too many people who believe in Jesus complain about their life constantly. Yes, life can be very difficult and sometimes things happen to us that are flat out unfair. However, complaining about it will never make it better. It will only make our attitudes and emotions worse until they feel like they’re unbearable.

The cure for complaining is to practice gratitude. If we are appreciative, we should express that. When someone does something for you that you enjoy, be sure to tell them. When God answers a prayer for you, express your gratitude for Him.

Complaining and gratitude are two opposing forces. They cannot both exist at one time. By choosing to be grateful, we can cancel out Satan’s desire for us to live in misery and despair.


“But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.”

– James 1:4-8

An attitude of impatience causes us to stress more. No matter who you are in life, there’s just the simple fact that you’ll have to wait for things. Therefore, instead of waiting with a bad attitude of impatience, learn to wait with a good attitude. Being impatient will not reduce the amount of time that you have to wait, but it will steal your joy and peace. Not only that, but it’ll likely steal the joy and peace from those around you as well.

Patience is one of the fruits of the Spirit found in Galatians 5:22-23. When we become born again, we receive the seed of patience from God. However, we need to grow this seed to bear fruit by using self-control to practice it. It’s like a muscle that grows each time you use it. Whenever God gives you an opportunity to be patient, don’t be upset. Instead, be joyful that God is helping you grow in this area.

Our society can be very fast-paced at times and it’s easy to get consumed by that atmosphere. However, if you truly want to overcome impatience, then learn to live in the present. There are many times I get overwhelmed because I have so much stuff to do. It’s those moments where I have to take a step back and remind myself that I can only do one thing at a time. By focusing my energy on what I’m currently doing instead of being distracted by the future, I can get more done in less time.

Unfortunately, impatience is plaguing many people and that’s why they blow up whenever they experience inconvenience or something doesn’t go the way they’d prefer it to. Practice being patient with those around you and in tough situations. More importantly, learn to be patient with God because He doesn’t always move the way we’d like Him to. Wait with joy and refuse to allow the enemy to use difficult situations to steal your joy.

If you’re struggling with impatience, check out my post, “How To Become A Patient Person And Overcome Impatience.”


“Whoever seeks to save his life will lose it, and whoever loses his life will preserve it.”

– Luke 17:33

Jesus is the perfect example of selflessness. Although He did not sin, He gave Himself up to become sin and be slain for the sins of all in order that we may be saved.

I believe that the natural state of humankind is to be selfish. We have a nature that wants to preserve us, those who we love, and the things we care about.

God promises to take care of us and provide for those things which we need. Therefore, we can’t allow our selfish tendencies to hold us back from the life we want to live in Christ.

The cure for selfishness is self-sacrifice. By that, I mean giving to others in a way that costs us something. It’s more loving to listen than it is to share our opinion. However, sharing our opinion would be more pleasing to our flesh. By holding back our personal desire to give someone else preference, we are being sacrificial and defeating selfishness. This is the same as gift giving. When you give to someone who is in need, it automatically releases joy.

Jesus wants us to live a self-sacrificial life. We are to present our bodies as living sacrifices. (See Romans 12:1)

Try it:

Sacrifice some time and call a person who needs to talk.

Deliberately hold the door open for a stranger.

Tell your spouse to do that thing they really enjoy that normally bothers you.

Do some household chores before someone else.

Donate some money or food to a local food bank.

Tip the restaurant server generously.


He who gathers in summer is a wise son;
He who sleeps in harvest is a son who causes shame.”

– Proverbs 10:5

The Bible has a lot to say about a person who is lazy. God blesses us when we work and I believe that we should always do our best and go the extra mile in our work. We can worship and glorify God in our work by doing it unto Him. You will certainly stand out among others who do not glorify God in their work and God will reward you for it.


For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft,
And stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry.”

– 1 Samuel 15:23

Another negative attitude to avoid is stubbornness. A stubborn person will never reach their full potential in their walk with God. In order to follow God, you must be willing to be flexible and change in order to fulfill His will. While stubborn people may have their reasons for why they cling to their ways, it will hinder their spiritual walk.

Be willing to change to God’s will and vision for your life. Don’t allow stubbornness to live in your heart and mind. It will keep you from the best God has planned for you.

“This Is Too Hard”

“And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart.”

– Galatians 6:9

If there’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that life is hard. Life will be hard if you do the easy thing or the hard thing. Don’t convince yourself that something is too hard before you try it. You may miss out on something great. In addition to that, don’t give up if you try something a few times and it seems like it may be too difficult for you. Repetition is the mother of all skills. Nothing worth doing is easy at first but with perseverance and patience, you can learn to do and achieve anything.

Instead of believing that you can’t, always believe that you can. God is with you. There’s no reason you cannot do something that He’s put into your heart to do. Whenever you feel weak, call on the Holy Spirit to give you strength to endure and accomplish the task.

Can you imagine all the people who have missed out on God’s best for them simply because Satan told them that they couldn’t have or do what God called them to do and they believed it? I’ve heard people say things like, “Yeah, people do that, but I could never do that.” Or “I’ll never be able to have success in what they’re doing so I’ll never even try. ” If God tells you to take advantage of an opportunity, believe in yourself and in Him.

Related: How Christians Can Have More Confidence


Wrath is cruel and anger a torrent,
But who is able to stand before jealousy?”

– Proverbs 27:4

If you know who you are in Christ, then there’s no reason to live a life of jealousy. God created us all unique and special in our own way. Every good thing we have in our life has come down from our Father in heaven. We can be confident in the love He gives us and avoid a life of insecurity if we hold fast to the truths the Bible says about us.

A mindset of jealousy steals our joy and peace. It’s a tactic of the enemy to keep us from walking in victory of our own minds and emotions. Avoid this negative attitude if you desire to have a successful walk with God.

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“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”

– Proverbs 23:7

Our mind is the starting point from which everything else in our life flows. If we can learn to wage battle within our minds, the enemy will have a hard time controlling us. That’s why it’s so important that we all learn how to manage our mind and the thoughts within it very well.

While there are great mindsets to focus on, there are negative attitudes to avoid at all costs. These include:

  • Self-pity
  • Complaining
  • Selfish
  • Lazy
  • Stubborn
  • “This is too hard.”
  • Jealous

There are many more that can be added to this list, but I want you to see the tactics in which the enemy uses to control your mind. All of your words, emotions, behaviors, lifestyle choices, and habits flow directly from your mind and into reality. Therefore, if you can learn to control your mind (which the Bible says you have the authority to do through the power of Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit), then you’d be sure to walk in the success God wants you to have.

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