If you’re considering marriage, or have already been married, then it’s important to take a look at what the Bible tells us the role of a wife is. After all, how could we obey God if we don’t know the responsibilities He’s given us? This post will cover five responsibilities of a godly wife.
To Be A Helper
“And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”
– Genesis 2:18
God’s reasoning for creating a woman for Adam is so he’d have a helper. While men and women may have different jobs in the Kingdom, they are still working toward the same goal. God told them to take care of the land and animals He gave them. He also told them to be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28). Therefore, we see that God intended them to work toward the same goal together.
To Support Or Uphold
“For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.”
– Ephesians 5:23 emphasis added
“But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.”
– 1 Corinthians 11:3 emphasis added
If the Bible says that the man is the head and the woman is the body, then that means the woman must be the one to uphold and support the man. The head cannot hold itself up on its own. It needs the rest of the body.
That’s why one of the responsibilities of a godly wife is for her to support her husband. God ordained man and woman to be together in harmony. Without the support of one’s wife, one would begin to wonder if what he’s doing has any worth. After all, if you cannot persuade your family that you’re doing what’s right for God’s kingdom, how could you persuade the world?
If your husband is struggling, continue to support him and pray on his behalf.
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Also, encourage your husband. We all fail and make mistakes at times. However, the husband will be held responsible for the influence he’s had on his family. That’s a huge task and it’s normal to grow weary. That’s why the Bible specifically tells us to not become weary in well-doing (Galatians 6:9).
I do believe we should encourage all believers. But if that’s so, how much more should we encourage the one who pledged their lives to us before God?
In addition to that, a critical and bashful wife causes great pain to a man. Instead of pointing out their faults, tell them the things you’re grateful for about them. This is a much better recipe for success. And of course, if there’s something that needs attention, sit down and reason with one another. Arguing never helps a marriage.
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”
– Ephesians 5:22
Since the husband will be the one to take responsibility for his household before God, it only makes sense that his family should submit. Today’s society likes to make people believe that this scripture somehow justifies abused wives to not leave their abusers. How absurd!
Marriage costs something. It’s not easy, but it’s truly rewarding. If you trust your husband, why wouldn’t you submit to them and their advice?
Your husband has pledged an oath before God and man that he would love you unto death. He would lay down his life for you, which is the way Christ requires him to love you. Therefore, why wouldn’t you lay down your earthy and fleshly desires for him?
The Lord lays out a divine blueprint for the idea of marriage. The man is the head of the woman. Together, they rule over the children.
A father is to be a shepherd of the flock the Lord has entrusted to him. The wife is the helper of the shepherd. They both share the same goal of taking care of the sheep. However, it’s the head of the flock who will be held responsible. Is the helper of the shepherd any less important? Absolutely not! Without the helper, the flock would probably fail.
God created us to need one another. It’s not good for man to be alone (Genesis 2:18). Also, in Genesis 3:16 one of God’s punishments for Eve is that she will desire to rule over her husband, but he will rule over her. It’s okay to struggle with this. God warned that women would. However, Christ also tells us to pick up our cross and crucify our flesh. Therefore, God still requires us to submit to our husbands even if we struggle with doing so.
To Intercede For Husband
If you want a happy and successful marriage, then do not neglect to pray for your husband. The power of prayer is extremely important, powerful, and releases faith to work on your behalf. Of course, we should pray for ourselves, our household, our children, and our husbands. However, if he is the head of the household then the enemy will have his sight locked and loaded on your husband.
Proverbs 31 Woman
I definitely recommend you read the story of the lady in Proverbs 31. Yet, here’s just a few verses from it:
“Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.”
– Proverbs 31:10-12
Christians like to talk about the Proverbs 31 woman as if she’s God’s vision for the perfect woman. This woman did nothing special as far as today’s society is concerned. She’s not a CEO or a famous singer. She’s a disciplined, hard-working wife and mother. Her husband trusts her with his life. She does good to him.
The Bible tells us that’s what God deems important. In fact, many societies throughout time have agreed with God on these things. It’s only been in more recent societies that they’ve been trying to convince women and the public that it’s not worthy to be a wife and a mother. That somehow, you’ll find happiness on your own. If you just work very hard and secure a great career, you’ll find fulfillment.
But God created us in His image. Yes, we work, but we love passionately. If you don’t have a family, what are you working hard for? Sure, you can share with your community and I suggest people do. But don’t let the world tell you there’s something wrong with wanting to be a wife and a mother. It’s one of the highest callings a woman could ever have.
It may not be easy, but it’s worth it:
“She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.”
– Proverbs 31:27-30
God gives both man and woman their own duties when it comes to life and marriage. This post covered 5 responsibilities of a wife, including:
- To be a helper
- To support or uphold your husband
- To encourage
- To submit
- To intercede on behalf of your husband
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