If there’s one thing I know, it’s that God has a plan for His people. However, understanding that doesn’t make waiting for one’s spouse any easier. We all want to be loved by God and by others. A spouse is a wonderful treasure to find, but the waiting period can be very difficult. So what do you do while waiting for God to send your spouse? Here are just a few ideas for you to build upon.
All scriptures are taken from the NKJV unless otherwise noted.
“Blessed is the man
Who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly,
Nor stands in the path of sinners,
Nor sits in the seat of the scornful;
But his delight is in the law of the Lord,
And in His law he meditates day and night.”
– Psalm 1:1-2
Throughout any waiting period in your life, always obey God. There’s no better advice I can give you than that. However, obeying God isn’t always easy and I understand that, especially during a waiting period.
We’re all striving to become better and more fruitful. You don’t want to indulge in unripe fruit. Likewise, you shouldn’t want God to send your spouse before you’re ready to handle that type of responsibility.
Growing in the spirit by obeying God is crucial if you’re wanting a successful marriage.
There are many different ways to obey God, but there are a few things I do if I’m unsure of what to do at the moment.
First, I ask myself, “What was the last thing God told me to do?” Sometimes I get off track and have to remind myself of His direction.
There was another time in my life where I asked God for instruction and His response was, “Do what you know to do and do it the best you can.”
I’ve found that’s a piece of wisdom that can always be applied at any time. God raises and trains us up. If for any reason you’re unsure of what to do, continue doing what God has already shown you.
“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.”
– James 1:2-4
God clearly tells us that we will have to learn to be a patient person if we want to serve Him. While humans may have a selfish nature that yearns for instant gratification, God is eternal. Time doesn’t affect Him or His plans.
Many people in the Bible had to wait very long periods of time before the Word God spoke to them would come to pass. Abraham waited at least a decade for Issac, Moses was in the wilderness for forty years, Joseph was imprisoned for more than a decade, and so on. Even Jesus had to wait until the appropriate time to begin His ministry. So take heart! You’re not alone in your waiting!
“Therefore be patient, brethren, until the coming of the Lord. See how the farmer waits for the precious fruit of the earth, waiting patiently for it until it receives the early and latter rain. You also be patient. Establish your hearts, for the coming of the Lord is at hand.
Do not grumble against one another, brethren, lest you be condemned. Behold, the Judge is standing at the door! My brethren, take the prophets, who spoke in the name of the Lord, as an example of suffering and patience.”
– James 5:7-10
In this scripture, God commands us to be patient. It’s an act of obedience to wait with a pure and happy heart, trusting in the promise and Word of the Lord.
Get In Sync With The Spirit
“God is Spirit, and those who worship Him must worship in spirit and truth.”
– John 4:24
Reading the Bible is extremely important, but so is praying and dwelling in the Holy Spirit. That means we must practice it.
The Holy Spirit is with us and will guide our ways if we seek God. It will give us peace in the midst of adversity. Patience and clarity of mind will be granted to us when we dwell in the Holy Spirit of God. There’s nothing like it in the world.
I mention this because marriage is a huge responsibility. There will be times when your spouse gets on your nerves. Or there will be days when the demon of harassment refuses to leave you alone. It can be a great challenge to override your feelings and still treat your spouse with respect. In my opinion, the only real way to overcome that challenge is to practice being full of the Holy Spirit and making the right decision when you don’t feel like it.
Research What Biblical Marriage Looks Like
A great way to prepare for marriage is to research it. An easy way to do that would be to look up sermons of what biblical marriage looks like.
Another way would be to order books on biblical marriage and read those.
Also, get with your pastor. Ask for marriage counseling and guidance before you find your mate. It certainly won’t hurt.
It’s foolish to think that such a huge responsibility would require zero preparation.
We practice and take tests before driving.
Before a company hires you, they make sure you’re qualified.
You have to take tests before you can acquire a degree.
We even make sure our coffee has the right amount of sugar and creamer before we enjoy it.
Why would anyone think it’s a good idea to get into a marriage without proper preparation?
Practice Giving And Being Selfless
“So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.”
– 2 Corinthians 9:7
Marriage takes daily sacrifice. Although it’s very rewarding, it’s not always fun. There will be times when your spouse will ask you to do things you simply don’t want to do. It’s okay to feel that way. It’s normal. However, spouses must learn to put the other first.
When we practice giving and sacrificing for others, it shapes us to be more like God. God is a giver. He gave His only son for us and the husband is to love His wife like Christ loves the church.
Whenever God puts tests and trials in your way to test how selfless you’d be, take advantage of it and be of great joy.
“Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.”
– Philippians 2:4
Again, your spouse’s interests may be different than yours. It’s an expression of love to be courteous of someone else’s interests and learn about them. You’ll find that you’ll learn about things you couldn’t care less about if it wasn’t for your spouse. However, since they find them important, you’ll learn to, too.
There are many things you can do while waiting for God to send you your spouse. Some of these things include:
- Obeying God
- Patiently enduring
- Getting in sync with the Holy Spirit
- Researching biblical marriage
- Practicing giving
- Practicing being selfless
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